Navigating Dating? Here’s Key Things to Look for on a First Date

By Justin Graham, MS

First dates can feel like a thrilling rollercoaster ride—full of excitement, anticipation, and maybe a few butterflies in your stomach. As you embark on this adventure, it’s essential to tune into how your date makes you feel and observe their behavior. The initial meeting can reveal a lot about a person’s character and how well you might connect.

Here are some key things to look for as you’re getting to know someone:

  1. How They Treat Others:

    One of the most telling aspects of a person’s character is how they treat people around them. Pay attention to how your date interacts with waitstaff, strangers, and others nearby. Are they polite, respectful, and kind? Or do they come across as rude and dismissive? Kindness and respect toward others are strong indicators of a person’s true nature. Someone who treats others well is likely to treat you well too.

  2. Comfort Level:

    Your comfort and safety should always be a top priority. A good date should make you feel at ease, not anxious or pressured. Notice how you feel in their presence. Are you relaxed, or do you feel on edge? A positive date experience involves mutual respect for boundaries and a genuine effort to make each other comfortable. Feeling safe and relaxed around your date is a strong sign of a potential connection.

  3. Listening Skills:

    Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. On your first date, pay close attention to your date’s listening skills. Do they ask questions about your stories and show genuine interest in getting to know you, or do they constantly steer the conversation back to themselves? A good listener makes you feel heard and valued, which is crucial for building a meaningful connection. Someone who listens attentively and engages with your stories is likely to be considerate and empathetic in a relationship.

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Final Thoughts

First dates can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, but by focusing on these key aspects, you can gain valuable insights into your potential partner’s character and how well you might connect. Remember, the goal is to find someone who makes you feel respected, comfortable, and genuinely valued. Trust your instincts and prioritize your well-being as you continue on your dating journey.

Happy dating, and may you find the connection you’re looking for!